These are the types of posts we sincerely don’t like writing. The fact that we need to address talking to our children about violence is absolutely devastating. However, in the wake of the Parkland, Fla. tragedy, it must be discussed.
Too Scared for School
When images of children fleeing a school are displayed prominently on the news, it can be very traumatic for children. Some kids dismiss it without any further thought, but others can be hypersensitive and troubled deeply by it. For many seeing these images, and hearing tales of violence in schools can cause them to not want to go to school at all.
While this is understandable, it’s imperative we help our children to feel safe. Political issues aside, a school in the United States is generally the safest place a child can be for the most part. In an effort to aid them in staying safe we can tell our children to report things that look suspicious, and to speak up if they hear someone making inappropriate jokes or threats. It may also be helpful to teach them what to do in the event something bad does happen. In fact, many schools are doing drills for exactly this as a precaution.
Don’t Dismiss Their Feelings
Ask your children how they are feeling, and don’t dismiss it when they answer you. Let them have the freedom to tell you about things going on in their school. Be sure to make your home the one place that offers them a judgment free space to speak up, and honestly express their thoughts and emotions. Doing this can also keep you aware of what’s happening, and alert you if something is off, or needs to be brought up to teachers, faculty and administrators.
If your children are having a particularly difficult time thinking about violence, and the shootings that have occurred, talk to them openly and honestly about what’s going on. Reassure them in the best way you can that their school is doing all it can to keep them safe. If they continue to feel worry and anxiety, be sure to turn off the news, especially the most negative and graphic content. On the other hand, if this anxiety gets too intense, it might also be a good idea to have them speak with a counselor.